The HighlySensitivePeople.com
Insights into how to successfully navigate the unique
situations and challenges that arise for people with the trait
of high sensitivity and the people in their lives.
Welcome! First off, I want to give credit and thanks to
the wonderful Dr. Elaine Aron who first introduced all of us to this
important inherited trait of high sensitivity and who wrote the landmark
1996 book
The Highly Sensitive Person:
How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You. And, make sure you
visit her website www.hsperson.com.
Now, as an introduction to the trait of high sensitivity,
see if some of these statements resonate with you, or relate to someone important in your life...
You, your partner, or someone important to you
have a heightened awareness of subtleties in your environment, whether it's sight,
sound, touch, taste, or smell.
You can become stressed
out and upset when overwhelmed and may find it necessary to get away,
maybe into a darkened room, to seek solitude, relief and comfort.
You are very creative.
You are very conscientious, hard working, and
meticulous, but may become uncomfortable and less efficient or productive when being watched or scrutinized.
You feel compelled to file and
organize things and thoughts, also enjoy simplicity and may become overwhelmed
or even immobilized by chaos, clutter, or stress.
You are very uncomfortable when feeling things are getting out of your control.
You get a sense of comfort and
well being when around a lake, river, stream, the ocean, or even a fountain.
You may experience mood swings,
sometimes occurring almost instantly and can also be affected by other people's
moods, emotions and problems.
You have a deep, rich, inner
life, are very spiritual, and may also have vivid \s.
You are very intuitive and you feel that you can
usually sense if someone isn't telling the truth or if something else is wrong.
You get concerned and think or worry
about many things, and have also been told "you take things too personally."
You have had the experience of "cutting people out" of your life.
You were considered quiet,
introverted, timid, or shy as a child.
Here
are a few more to consider... Can be startled easily. Cautious in new situations.
May have trouble sleeping. Extra sensitive to pain. Don't like crowds (unless they are kindred spirits).
Avoids violent movies and TV shows. Has a deep respect and appreciation of nature, music and art.
Do some, or many, of
these statements ring true for you, your partner, or someone important
in your life? If so, you or they may be a highly sensitive person or
"HSP." Whether you already know something about the trait and
temperament of highly sensitive people, or if this is your first
introduction to the subject, welcome! The goal and intent of this
website is to impart information, provide support and be a resource to
individuals with the trait of high sensitivity and for the people in
their lives.
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A lot has been discovered about the psychology and neuroscience of being a Highly Sensitive Person in the past few years and why you respond to events in your life in a way that sometimes seems so puzzling, far more than I can review in this website. But hopefully by highlighting some of the aspects of this trait for you, these few pages will give you some insight into why you often feel out of sync with the people around you.
I encourage you to check out the other pages here on the Highly Sensitive Person website for more information on the nature of what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person, and how the Trait of High Sensitivity can impact you in the areas of your Personal Relationships and communication skills, your Career, your Health and Well-being, and even your Spirituality, and how by learning more about this trait you can use these insights and tips to begin to make adjustments in your life, your thoughts and your attitude to take the fullest of advantages of being a person who experiences life on a level much more intensely than the average person. And I've also added a new page describing my personal Life Coaching for HSPs service, if you'd like to be personally guided by me into exploring your amazing trait on a one-on-one basis.
I've put together this site as a brief overview of some of the aspects of being a highly sensitive person because from my years of counseling and coaching HSPs, it has become clear that most people with the trait of high sensitivity often think that there's something wrong with them because they feel and respond so differently from most of the "normal" people they interact with every day. And even when they learn about how their brains and bodies work, and understand the science that explains these differences, they often still regard it as something of a disability.
It is my belief that this trait is not a burden, but rather a special gift because it opens you up to a wide world of amazing possibilities and potentials.
You have a great inheritance and you are in a class with a great many very successful, accomplished persons. But as it has been said, with great power comes great responsibility, and you have a responsibility to take care of yourself, to protect your gifts, and to understand that you have a special relationship with the people around you who are not so blessed.
What Do These Famous People Have in Common?
Abraham Lincoln....Carl Jung....Apple's Steve Jobs....Princess Diana. They are all HSP! (Highly Sensitive Persons) or what I also refer to as "Alphas" — those people who have an on going tug-of-war between their head and their heart, individuals who are in touch with both their Masculine and Feminine Energies.
HSP "Meetup" in West L.A.
on Dec. 18, 8-9:30 p.m.
If you live in Southern California you are invited to our HSP "Meetups" in Los Angeles are held on the 3rd Wednesday of every month. To find out more about
the L.A. Meetups visit the Highly
Sensitive People Meetup site to learn more, sign up and join our HSP
Meetup group, and to RSVP for our next "Meetup." And because I'm also a Certified WANT® Institute Educator in Androgynous
Semantic Realignment (ASR),™ her trademarked system of language and
communication, I'm able to discuss Dr. Pat Allen's work, too. (See note on Coaching, below.)
We meet at the new SHARE Center, 6666 Green Valley Circle, Culver City, across the 405 Freeway from the Hughes Center, from 8 p.m. until 9:30 p.m. Suggested $10 donation is appreciated to help pay for the room. By the way, for those of you not able to attend our monthly meetings, we've tried an experiment and videotaped the most recent session. A DVD (and maybe even a downloadable video) will soon be available to show what happens at a typical HSP Meetup. If you're interested in viewing this, please sign into the Meetup page and let me know!
These are sure to be interesting evenings learning about and discussing the trait of high sensitivity. If you're an HSP, they'll be evenings of learning to understand yourself better, and if you're a Non-HSP you'll learn how to better understand those Highly Sensitive People in your life. Because HSPs make up about 20% of the population, you are sure to come into contact with many of them, so why not make the most of those relationships; social, business and romantic?
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What Some Of My Clients Have Told Me....
- "Jim, your sessions have been a huge part of me getting myself back! Your warmth and charm is a place I can go when I just can't take the world, as it is a place for skills to learn how to manage as an HSP in this world." — Theresa
- "Thank you! Thank you! You are responsible for changing my life for the better! Much Better!" — Darron S.
- "Jim Hallowes' coaching and his work with Highly Sensitive People opened up a whole new awareness about my son and myself that gave me more relief and answers than anything else. He gave me more understanding of HSP and how we don't need to be fixed. I want to thank you for this gift of knowledge you are giving people. It has been truly helpful." — Tammy Hiatt Monaco, Life and Wellness Coach
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Important Disclaimer: Jim Hallowes is not a medical doctor or a clinical psychologist. As a Certified WANT® Institute ASR Cognitive Behavioral Coach, he works with people who are coping with life but who want to thrive and succeed even more. Any forms of assistance offered by Jim are self-developmental in nature, and do not replace medical or clinical psychological treatment. People who have a medical problem should contact their licensed medical doctor or other suitable qualified professional. Highly Sensitive People is the registered trademark of James M. Hallowes. Please note that Dr. Pat Allen's legal counsel has sent me a letter which directs me to state here that: "The WANT® Institute is not affiliated with this website/newsletter and does not sponsor or endorse the content of this website/newsletter or the services of Jim Hallowes." and "ASR (Androgenous Semantic Realignment) is a trademark of the WANT® Institute."
Listen to Jim Hallowes' latest interviews
I was the in-studio guest on Los Angeles' radio popular long-running The Aware Show with Lisa Garr, on KPFK 90.7 FM,
talking about the trait of high sensitivity and Highly Sensitive People. According to Lisa, The Aware Show is "dedicated to
communicating information to inspire positive growth and change. Our goal is an increased awareness and healing on an individual
and planetary level." Listen to the complete show or you can order an audio CD-ROM from the Highly Sensitive People Gift Store.
I have also been invited by the people at GenConnect to join their Panel of Experts as the resident authority on HSP, along with Dr. Pat Allen as their expert on Relationship and Communication Issues. If you're not familiar with GenConnect, it's an on-line "Facebook"-type forum where you can interact with a wide variety of knowledgeable coaches, lecturers and authors on topics of self-development, and mingle with a community of like-minded individuals. They were also the co-sponsors (along with MORE Magazine) of the recent "Reinvention-Convention" in New York City which we both attended. Their website is really a great place to get a lot of up-to-the-minute information on a variety of topics, and of course you can view our Jim Hallowes and Dr. Pat Allen video segments there as well, at GenConnect.com/Experts.
HSPs are otherwise normal human beings who
just happen to have an uncommon trait -- that of being extremely
receptive to both internal and external stimuli.
That's how I introduce the Trait of High Sensitivity in an article just published in the current issue of Paradigm Magazine, an outreach of the Illinois Institute for Addiction Recovery. In fact, it's the featured article in the issue.
The
Institute does some wonderful work in helping people deal with
addiction-related issues in their lives, and although high sensitivity
should never be regarded as a
psychological weakness or addiction, it's been borne out by my years of
counseling HSPs that their trait makes them very susceptible to the
trap of becoming addicted. Many
addictive personalities fall into the category of "alpha" types, and
are caught in that age-old battle between head and heart, between logic
and feelings. Often they can turn to self-medication for relief, and
this often starts them on a road to becoming addicted, whether to
arguably benign substances like sugar or chocolate, or more serious
addictions to prescription drugs or even harmful street drugs.
For
this reason, Mary Allen at the IIAR asked me to write a brief overview
describing some of my experiences in working with highly sensitive
people. And they graciously have allowed me to reproduce the entire
two-page article here on my website, as well, for the benefit of all my
readers.
And no, I didn't come up with the "HSP Dragon" illustrating the
article. But I think it may represent an discomfiting truth, that lying
very close below the surface in many gentle, longsuffering HSPs there's
a strong feeling of rage against a world that makes it so hard for them
to fit in comfortably, that can erupt at unexpected moments.
In any case, I think it's cute! So click on the dragon to download and
read the article and you may even want to share it with any HSPs you
know.
Change Your Energy... And Change Your Reality
Enlightenment. It seems that among the HSPs I counsel, it's something of a Holy Grail they're constantly seeking after.
And it's understandable, when you realize that for most Highly
Sensitive People, thinking outside the box comes naturally. They are
more likely to ask "What if...?" than "What is..." And that gives them
a whole new handle on what most of the world thinks of as reality.
Because, you see, we actually create our own reality. By our thoughts,
our beliefs and the actions they inspire, we attract people, events and
circumstances that reasonate within us. It's generally done
unconsciously, but once you become aware of how these principles work,
you literally become enlightened -- that is, a light has been turned on
in your consciousness that shows you new truths.
These truths are subtle, but can become very real to you. They center
on how our physical universe works, how your internal energy interacts
with everything around you, including the people, what your energy is
doing (or not doing), and how you have the power within your mind and
body to change that interaction for the better. This can allow you to
change every aspect of your life through conscious intention: creative
accomplishment, finance, visualization, relationships, stress
management... in short the elements that determine your success in
life, and how you feel about it.
If this sounds like something you desire to explore in more detail, I'm
going to recommend you register for a free, week-long series of online
seminars called "The Enlightenment Fest"
that's starting in a few days. This unique series of audio
presentations is based on the course developed with Jeddah Mali called Seeds of Enlightenment
and it runs from December 2 through December 7. There's no cost to
register, and if you can't make the live presentations recordings will
be available for 24 hours after each session.
In these seminars you will discover how every alteration in your
thoughts affects your energy. I'm not talking about your physical
energy, although that is affected. Rather, this is your life energy,
the very essence of your being. It's not about using your thoughts to
change your behaviors, which usually doesn't work very well, but it's
about using your mind to influence your energy, and your behaviors will
automatically follow that change.
This can impact every area of your life.
Listening during the six days of the Enlightenment Fest will open your
eyes to a way of being you never thought possible. Things within you,
and around you, will begin to transform. Layers of resistance,
frustration and confusion will disssolve, and your sense of limitation
or helplessness will fall away. The energies that seem to hold you back
in life will vanish along with your limiting and restrictive beliefs.
Your mind and body will move into a new alignment with the reality of
the universse.
And this is all being made available without charge by Learning
Strategies this week; no strings attached. Listen free during the
entire Enlightenment Fest with your free pass, available by clicking
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I know as an HSP you have greatness and joy deep within. The
Enlightenment Fest will help you release the chains that bind it and
you will discover a new experience of creativity, peace and sense of
success. As you listen to the sessions of the Enlightenment Fest, you
will shift your experience of life.
I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity, and yes, even
pass this link on to anyone you know who has been struggling with
bringing their life into clearer focus. The event is
open to the public, but it is only for six days so don't miss any of it
and register right away.
Highly Sensitive People Need a Higher Vibration
I was amazed to learn that Albert Einstein (who was a highly sensitive person himself) was the first scientist who began to explore the quality of "vibration" in the universe. He determined that all matter is just another expression of fundamental energy, and everything in the universe — the sun, the earth, our bodies, our lives, the words we speak and the thoughts we have — is nothing more than a vibration of energy.
The rate each of these energies vibrates is called its frequency, and scientists are discovering that it's possible to experience entirely different states of consciousness, as well as stimulating powerful energy centers in the brain and functions such as creativity and mood enhancement, just by subtly "tuning" their frequencies. And the more highly tuned nervous system of an HSP benefits the most utilizing them.
The groundbreaking movie "The Secret" was one of the first popular discussions of vibrations and the Law of Attraction, and new methodologies and products are coming onto the market with increasing "frequency" these days.
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But there's nothing new about it. Actually, many of these techniques have been known for centuries, but were extremely difficult to work with. For instance, the solfeggio frequencies were used in Ancient Gregorian Chants, which were held to be capable of spiritually inspiring mankind to be more Godlike and improve our sense of well-being. But over the centuries use of these frequencies was lost because changes were made in our western musical scales, altering the music's ability to tune our higher matrices of thought. The ancient knowledge was almost lost to the ages.
What is new is that today access to these life-changing frequencies has become extremely easy. I've just been introduced to a new method of tuning your internal vibrations by the founders of MindPowerMP3.com who have just released a series of powerful audio tracks designed to help people, especially HSPs, gain greater control over their vibrational state.
As a special promotion, they've set up a special limited-time webpage where you can download without any charge or obligation up to 20 of their most powerful recordings. This is a fantastic opportunity to sample one of the most up-to-date self-improvement technologies available today. Download the MP3s, try them out, apply this audio technique to your own life, and see fantastic results in only a few days. And it will cost you absolutely nothing.
Today's digital technologies makes precise tuning of these frequencies extremely economical, and they can be added to specially recorded MP3 tracks, which mix these fundamental frequencies with beautifully recorded classical music.
Applying these frequencies in your life, just by listening to these special tracks (preferably with headphones to focus the energies) will:
- Increase perception and awareness by building new neural pathways in your brain — science calls it brainwave entrainment
- Balance your heart chakra to become more tolerant, optimistic, compassionate, resourceful and even humorous
- Enhance your ability to learn and focus by tuning in to the Earth/Gaia rejuvenating frequency of 7.83 Hz — called the Schumann Resonance or the "Earth's Heartbeat"
- Relieve stress, accelerate healing and strengthen your immune system. In fact, scientific studies have demonstrated this conclusively
So since this is a limited time promotional offer, I'm happy to make it available here on the Highly Sensitive People website. Accessing this gift is easy — just visit the site below to discover more and to download your 5 free MP3s and also get 2 free reports explaining much more about this amazing new (yet amazingly old) technology. Here's the link to the special offer page:
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I'm proud that the people at MindPowerMP3 have allowed me to become an affiliate for their groundbreaking new technology and FTC regulations require I mention this whenever I present any information about exciting new third-party products for the benefit of my readers.
How Your Mind Shapes Your Personal Reality
It may sound like a cliché, but that doesn't make it any less true when I remind you that you are a unique individual.
There will never be another person in this world who has your
personality, your unique mixture of strengths and weaknesses, and your
breadth of emotional experiences. And it follows then that you are here
to live your unique life, your way and on terms that are uniquely
determined by your own set of personal wants, not-wants and life goals.
You are not here to serve the wants and agendas of the people you work
for, the people you live with, the government or the media. Your only
responsibility toward them is to love them and wish only the best for
them, and to share with them your own individual set of talents, skills and
creativity to foster a happier and more productive world for all of us.
To this end, your main responsibility, however, is to be yourself. To create what
you want in your own life, and have the things you desire in life
without any sense of guilt or selfishness, knowing that you are a
worthy person and deserve only the best richness of experience that
life has to offer.
Unfortunately
though, many people find themselves trapped in a box that they
mistakenly call "reality." It may be a literal box, like an office
cubicle in which they spend most of their waking hours, or it may be
metaphorical like those French mimes demonstate by pressing their hands
against invisible walls. It is most often a mental box that limits your
thoughts and emotions to a short-list of things you feel you
"should" do or be, or "should-not" think or ever have.
We keep pet birds in cages for their own protection. But when we let
society put us into a box of social and financial constrictions, or
worse we keep ourselves in a psychological cage because we feel that
somehow protects us, we do ourselves, society and God a grave
disservice.
Some people live their entire lives in these boxes of limitations.
Others eventually reach a point where, in the words of the newscaster
in the movie "Network," they finally realize they are "mad as hell, and not going to take it any longer!"
I can confidently assure you that waiting until you reach a breaking
point is not the best way to improve your life, your
relationships and your financial circumstances. If you wait until the
pain becomes that unbearable, you run a risk of making a decision
driven by anguish and not intuition, one not informed by your
connection to universal intelligence. What works better than waiting
until you break under the strain and become desperate is to make a
simple decision that today you will start to create your own reality
instead of living someone else's reality and agenda. And take decisive
action, under your control and your freedom of choice.
Can You Create Your Own Reality?
That sounds incredible, doesn't it? But again I can assure you that
with each of us lies the power to create and guide our own unique
experience of reality. It is a simple interplay between reshaping our
mindset, making informed decisions, and applying the incredible
discoveries being made in the fields of neuroscience and
brain-psychology being done by today's leading researchers.
To this end, a powerful new program has recently been released that has already changed thousands of people's lives. If you've watched "The Secret"
and read about the power of the Law of Attraction, you know it is
possible for us to take command of our lives. But you may have also
found that these simplistic approaches also seem to be "hit-and-miss"
techniques, that sometimes work but often fail to produce
longterm results.
There's a reason for this. Like most things in life, changing your
personal reality is a bit more complicated than pasting up a
visionboard, or what the teachers in "The Secret" talk about. Not
impossibly complicated, but it's like baking a cake. If you leave
out even one important instruction, say how hot to make the oven, your
chances for success plummet.
In his new program called "Mind Alchemy: Bend Your Reality,"
Steve Aitchison will first show you exactly how your mind has been
designed to work, and how you are not using it correctly. It's not your
fault. We human beings don't come into this world with an owner's
manual, so we spend a lot of our lives experimenting, sometimes
succeeding but often failing. The best teachers are those who have
failed a lot, and now know exactly some of the reasons that things may
not work our for most people, and more importantly, what changes you
need to make in your thoughts and mindset to make the right course
corrections in life.
In Mind Alchemy Steve will show you exactly the steps needed to bring
about desired changes in your life, or as Steve colorfully puts it: "To
Bend Your Reality." He'll show you the principles underlying your
awareness, and how you can tweak your brain to:
- Discover what you need in life to be truly happy, and how to deal with the feelings that something is missing.
- Find the partner of your dreams, and create an intimate relationship that has a sense of being mutually satisfying and fulfilling.
- Take control of your future and eliminate any fears or uncertainties that undermine your confidence and self esteem.
For too many decades our western civilization mistakenly believed that
reality is fixed and unchanging. But now research and new forms of
enlightenment are showing us that physical reality is fluid, maleable
and can even be influenced by our thoughts and emotions. It is no
longer New Age, but now has become the New Science. And cutting-edge teachers like those in "The Secret"
and now Steve Aitchison are forging new disciplines of teaching
that show how you can manipulate your physical circumstances. As you go
through each of his lessons in this powerful program, your reality will
literally begin to change for the best.
So Are You Ready for a Change?
I know you may have tried to change your life in the past, as many of
us do, and even embraced programs and teachings that promised success
on a silver platter. Or maybe you've finally come to a point
where you want to try something new and groundbreaking, just to see
what kind of difference it will make in your life. In either case, the
Mind Alchemy program is your next logical step.
We're all facing a brandnew world that is so different from things
that were accepted only a few years ago, in which individuals,
orgnizations and even countries are having to rethink their approach to existence. Using the Mind Alchemy program could be the next big step in
bringing about change you your own reality, and could even change the
world as you know it.
Again it may sound cliché but you owe it to yourself, and those you
love, to check out this new approach to mental training. Click on this link to see what Mind Alchemy has to offer
for your success, prosperity and most importantly of all, your peace of
mind. Stop living according to other people's agendas, and take control
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By the way, I'm working with Steve to promote this powerful new
life-enhancing course because I believe in what he's trying to achieve
in helping others to reach their fullest human potential. FTC regulations require stating here that of course by recommending any website or product for the benefit of my visitors it makes me an affiliate because the Highly Sensitive People website may be compensated, and that you should always perform your own due diligence before making any on-line commitments or purchases.
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HSP "Meetup"
on Dec. 18, 8-9:30 p.m.
If you live in Southern California you are invited to our HSP "Meetups" in Los Angeles are held on the 3rd Wednesday of every month. To find out more about
the L.A. Meetups visit the Highly
Sensitive People Meetup site to learn more, sign up and join our HSP
Meetup group, and to RSVP for our next "Meetup." We meet at the new SHARE Center, 6666 Green Valley Circle, Culver City, across the 405 Freeway from the Hughes Center, from 8 p.m. until 9:30 p.m. Suggested $10 donation is appreciated to help pay for the room.
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