When it comes to work and careers for people with the trait
of high sensitivity we recommend, whenever possible, to select a job
that doesn't run counter to their trait of high sensitivity. And, if it
is your partner who is highly sensitive, support them in finding an
appropriate job or career that is suitable for their trait and
temperament. One suggestion regarding work for highly sensitive people
is to find a job where there isn't someone looking over their shoulder
all the time, because HSP seem to work much better when they are given a
project and then are left pretty much alone to accomplish it.
Because of their trait, highly sensitive person's nature is to be very conscientious and productive. They are by their nature very "project" oriented. However, when highly sensitive people are being closely observed or supervised they can become very uncomfortable and do not perform as well as they would if left more on their own. Some HSP may even begin to sweat, shake and become far less productive and efficient than when they're not being scrutinized.
If you are an employer and think one or more of your employees may have the trait of high sensitivity, we hope you'll learn to work with them in a way that will be most beneficial to everyone. As we've mentioned, highly sensitive people are usually very intelligent and are known for being extremely hard workers and make very loyal employees, particularly when their trait and temperament is understood and appreciated.
We realize this concept of people with a trait of highly sensitivity may meet with some skepticism and resistance. In fact, some employers may even want to dismiss it because it doesn't fit comfortably into their conventional thinking. This is unfortunate, but that seems to be the way it is right now and until the trait of high sensitivity is better known, accepted, understood and embraced by employers for all of its benefits, it may stay this way for awhile.
For actors and others in the creative fields, there are unique challenges and opportunities that face the highly sensitive person, and some of these are touched upon in the new Jim Hallowes interview about the trait of high sensitivity conducted by Douglas Eby of Talent Development Resources. Mr. Eby is famous for his many interviews with the likes of Patch Adams, M.D., Jodie Foster, William Hurt, Judith Orloff, M.D., Reese Witherspoon, James Woods, and others. You can listen to the recent 20-minute interview by clicking here: Douglas Eby interview with Jim Hallowes on the trait of high sensitivity.
Here are some suggestions that might help reduce stress on the job.
When you start to feel uncomfortable, stressed, or overwhelmed and feel you are losing control, as soon as possible move yourself into a different environment, even a short walk to the restroom can be very helpful.
When stressed or you start to feel overwhelmed, we suggest you do something...anything, because any physical activity, even just stretching your back or rolling you shoulders and taking a series of deep breaths, can give you a feeling of being more in control and help you work off negative energy.
Take care of yourself. Learn to say "No" when you don't have time to do something.
We have known highly sensitive people who have found that creating their own more comfortable "deadline" on a project can give them the psychological space and comfort zone they need to help reduce the pressure and stress and keep their bodies functioning effectively and efficiently.
Reduce large projects into "bite size" pieces. These new smaller units can be more comfortably handled one "bite" at a time.
If you have any strategies or tips that have successfully worked for you on the job, and would like to share them with other HSP, we'd sure appreciate it if you'd drop us an e-mail. Thanks!
Highly Sensitive Can Mean Highly Successful
Do you ever feel that most "successful" people in the highly competitive world we live in today seem to be really insensitive most of the time? And that being an HSP can be a handicap in achieving financial progress or a rewarding career?
Pardon my bluntness here, but that idea is really a crock. There are thousands of intelligent and gifted HSPs who have left their mark in the world. And I'm not talking here about only geniuses like Einstein, famous artists like Picasso or creative super-businessmen like Steve Jobs and Richard Branson.
HSPs are generally people who think outside the box, start their own businesses like restaurants or catering or specialty stores, design clothing, write great novels and even direct the greatest films. The notion that being highly sensitive somehow gets in the way of being a success is one of those ideas that, when you look closely at it, becomes totally bogus.
Your trait of high sensitivity, my friend, is actually your greatest asset in achieving the life of your dreams!
Oh, don't misunderstand me here. HSPs face one disadvantage that most other people blithely slide past, and that's the fact that we think about things. We get great ideas, but also hold ourselves in check while we think about the downsides, try to anticipate all the potential obstacles, make sure we have our whole kit together before opening the door and stepping out into the world with our great notions.
It does us...and the world...a great disservice. The reason we were born into the world is to make a positive contribution to the world. The reason you were born is to achieve great things, for yourself and for others.
So do you want to deal with the issues that are really holding you back? Let's talk about one...making money and achieving financial freedom.
How Are You Going To Get What You Want in Life?
One of the biggest takeaways I got from working years with Dr. Pat Allen was the core of her self-development program WANT Training. It can be summed up in a single sentence:
"Ask for what you want, and say 'No' to what you don't want."
But like most simple truths, there is a lot of layered nuance hiding in her words. For one thing, there's the importance of having cooperation from other people to get what you want. I think the late Zig Ziglar summed it up best when he said, "You can have everything you want in life, if you will just help other people get what they want."
Without the cooperation of another person, you'll most likely never get that ideal job, go out on a hot date, or even have any friends. Cooperation is the lubricant that keeps society and the economy running along smoothly. And in order to get cooperation,. you have to use a tool called Persuasion.
Most people use give-and-take in dealing with others, at least to an extent, and rely on logical reasoning. Dr. Pat Allen emphasizes the importance of rational speaking, but it doesn't work with all people. Especially those who use intimidation to force a "deal," caveman style, or put together powerful and sometimes angry arguments to bluster their way by force.
That doesn't seem to work too well in the long run, either.
But really smart people have learned there's an art to persuasion, and develop a technique to give the other person something valuable in exchange for what they want. It's called bargaining. In fact, it's the basis of our entire economic system, as well as our social culture. And it's a skill that can be learned, by anyone, so that they can start getting what they want, easily, quickly and without burning any bridges in the process.
A friend of mine, Michael Lee, has created a breakthrough course on improving your skills in this area, titled "How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days Or Less" and I have to say it has some impressive and potent teachings. Michael has a wonderful personal writing style which really communicates, and as you go through his course you get the feeling that he is right there with you, guiding you gently through the material.
And more importantly, that he wants you to understand everything, and to succeed in improving your powers of persuasion.
Even more telling, he doesn't try to overpower you with his credentials like so many false guru wanna-be's out there. You know, the kind that always tack their "PhDs" onto their names and wave a list of their so-called "bestselling books" everywhere they go.
Most of these authors sound like carnival barkers to me. They throw information at you, and while you realize that it's good information, you really don't get the nuts-and-bolts stuff you need to put it into action in your life.
Not so with Michael's course. Everything he includes to read and listen to is easily understood... both in theory, and in practical application. It just seems so natural, that you automatically know how to use the information given to you.
What I like even more is that he's very up front with the fact that he started out right where you are now. In fact, he was afraid of everything, easily taken advantage of, with almost no self-confidence at all.
Just so you know, Michael is both a persuasion expert and a certified NLP practitioner. He's skilled at hypnosis and professional copywriting (and advertising requires extreme persuasive skills, I know!), has been a life coach for hundreds of people and is known by many as a "self-improvement guru" (which he confesses he finds a bit embarrassing).
If you want to read a little more about Michael's course, and how it can benefit you in so many ways, here's a link where you can take a look at it:
It's a hard truth, but people who know how to use the power and psychology of persuasion will always have a powerful edge over those who don't. And especially when you encounter people like that, a pushy salesman, a dodgy landlord or trying to make a business deal, you don't want to "come in second." Fore-warned is fore-armed, as they say.
And one thing is for sure: When you reach the end of Michael's course, you'll know that you've learned a whole new set of tactics to succeeding in life, and you'll now have a empowering confidence to put into practice everything he's taught you. As Michael says, "If you don't have excellent persuasion skills, you're losing out on many vital aspects of your life that includes your wealth, career, relationships, social and love life."
Michael's power-packed course talks about some things that I haven't seen in any product or seminar on persuasion. Things like:
- Self-programming affirmations to turn you into a persuasion power-house.
- A powerful relaxation exercise to give added punch to your persuasion efforts.
- How to develop magnetic charisma power.
- One word that magically makes people like you.
- The one secret to successful selling that most sales professionals don't know.
- How to get your prospect to sell themselves.
- How to find (or create) a magic button that compels someone to give you what you want.
And much, much more!
And remember, to get what you want in life, you really need to know how to negotiate with power and respect, and especially how to persuade the other guy (or gal) that doing things a certain way is in both of your best interests. Learning the art of persuasion may be the most important lesson you'll ever learn, so I urge you to look into Michael's course and decide for yourself if it will make getting what you want in life a lot easier.
You may decide it's time to start a new life as a powerful expert persuader.
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